self care resources for heartsickness

Sleep peacefully for as long as you need, but get up in the morning. On time.

Drink water.

Check in with yourself. How do you feel? Welcome your feelings, let them pass through. Sadness, loneliness, anger, pain, anxiety, adrenaline, weakness, woundedness. Sit with them next to you, acknowledge their presence.

Meditate. Breathe. Body scan. Buddha smile.

Make your space sacred, it‘s yours. Take care of it, keep it clean and comfortable.

Exercise. A run, a dance class, yoga, boxing, weight lifting, basketball, a bike ride, a walk.

Let people who care about you know how to take care of you - dinner, drinks, dancing, distractions. Netflix and wine on your couch, or theirs. A last minute beach vacation. A phone call about anything but you. A group chat of jokes. A twerk session. A check in call in between meetings or late at night or first thing in the morning. Someone to help you change your kitchen light bulb. A cleaner for your apartment. Someone to buy groceries with. Someone to cook with. Someone to eat with. Someone to sit quietly with. A forum to vent, talk, process.

Recognize the people who show up for you, especially the ones who do it without you asking.

Learn something new. Listen to a podcast or sermon. Read Tara Brach, Brene Brown, Pema Chodron, Eckhart Tolle, Esther Perel, bell hooks, your daily devotional.

Consume whatever inspires you and uplifts you and brings you closer to yourself and your truth.

Say no when you need to. Your time is your currency, spend it wisely. Your boundaries are yours to set. Find out where you need them to be.

Find a therapist you trust and connect with, with experience, who you can afford in the long term. Make weekly appointments and keep them. Talk to friends who go to therapy about their experience. De-stigmatize it.

Find a financial planner or accountability partner to make sure you can take care of everything you need now and in the future. Self care ain’t cheap. Use your emergency fund, and build it back up.

Go to the doctor, all of them. Primary, dental, vision, OBGYN.

And if it helps - an acupuncturist, a massage therapist, a spa, a sauna, the nail salon, reiki , soundbaths, a retreat, psychic mediums, get a facial, a blowout, go shopping, redecorate. Do all of these with a friend if you can.

Sit in the discomfort of your feelings of the unknown, the chaos, the change. Everything is temporary. Live through it all.

Give yourself many outlets. Keep yourself company. Be kind to yourself. Act intentionally in a way that serves you and makes you better. Put one foot in front of the other.